Sorry for the delay…

In about two minutes I will have officially have been away from posting online for too long.

And for a lack of better words, for a minute there, I was… lost.

What’s my direction?

I moved out-of-state, found a new identity in my work, and reoriented what it meant for me to be a person I was absolutely proud of. I set the course of a few relationships into life shaping friendships, got married to the girl of my dreams,  and traveled over 6,000 miles to get to where I am today.

And what did I learn? Self reliance is important, but pride should never block me from asking for advice along the way. I decided pretty quickly I didn’t want to end up walking to work in the middle of the night for the rest of my life, so I started getting my bearings straight. I worked out some of my aggression and turned it into a skill set. I plotted coordinates to smaller goals in order to get to the bigger trajectory. Results were easier to achieve, and in the end, much more rewarding. 

Ain’t she pretty. 🙂

I’ve decided to start this blog/press thing up again. But how will I make what I’ve learned into something I can keep logged in? I’ll start by making smaller goals and seeing where that takes me. Instead of trying to meet 100 people this year(last I checked, I got to about 30 people before it became a chore), I’ll compress the list to 50 events, not people, and set my compass somewhere that is truer to myself.

I will try to have a new experience every week – whether it’s big or small, so at the end of the year I’ll have achieved something more impactful in my life than just a few people I’ll have come across.

For example: going to Starbucks with good people, not just to meet someone new.

I can safely say I’ve found myself in a realm I never expected with a wife I never knew I’d love so much, and with a job that for the time being, continues to let me inspire and be inspired with the challenges it presents.

If along the way the trajectory alters a bit, that’s fine, but I want to make an effort to continuously reflect on the expedition and see where we touch down.


Where’s Your Heart?

Where’s your heart? If you don’t have the job you like, where does your heart lie in what you are doing? Find that and make it a part of your job, if possible.  Consider finding a way to make it part of your daily routine.  Doing this has helped me be more appreciative of what I’m doing, and ultimately makes the things I don’t like in my life a little better.

Business Tip: Get off your butt.

I’d like to open the post with some wise words from the famous artist known as Ke$ha:

“[I] Wake up in the morning feeling like PDiddy/ Put my glasses on/ I’m out the door/ I’m gonna hit this city/ Before I leave, brush my teeth with a bottle of Jack/ when I leave for the night I ain’t comin back…”

Inspiring, right?

Consider this: most people don’t brush their teeth with alcohol, because it’s STUPID. Also, taking into account the way the rest of the song goes, the singer probably washed her mouth out and ate her cereal with the rest of that Jack Daniels before she finished singing.

Why did I mention this song at all? Well, initially it was because I hated it; then I realized that song explains the point I wanted to get across in this post.

“Don’t stop, make it pop/ come on DJ turn it up/ Tonight, Imma fight/ ’til we see the sunlight.”

Bear with me for a second…

I think a lot of younger people have this sense of entitlement when it comes to what they can do, and who they actually are. This song depicts someone who thinks they’re on top of the world and can get what they want. Why does that bother me? Well… shouldn’t it bother you? Why would I want to hang out with someone who is drunk by 11:30 in the morning, hooks up with 80’s rock star wannabe’s (registered sex offenders?), and has no respect for them selves or for authority? I know the song is intentionally a little out of control, like the artist, but many people believe that they can do whatever they want and expect success to come out of the backseat of their car instead of actually working for it.

Like I said before, a lot of people my age think they deserve life on a silver platter, yet they sit and do nothing, feeling bad about them selves because they aren’t CEO of some company yet. Unless you win the lottery or already have a lot of cash from your parents or something, that’s just not gonna happen. I don’t care what school you went to, or even if you did. Your past accomplishments won’t mean jack unless you keep working on your dreams.

I met a great guy a few weeks ago who showed me how through initiative and consistent searching you could get yourself out there. Kyle Lacy (@kyleplacy, CEO of Brandswag), explained to me some simple steps in getting involved and making yourself a more marketable person. The first step is GETTING YOURSELF OUT THERE and talking to people. Don’t be afraid to have fun while you’re at it! Keep building up contacts, and through that network, you might just find that job that you think you deserve. You will at least find someone who can give you a more realistic view about what it takes to find your dream job.

Get involved in networking meetings; they will help you get to know more people in the area you’re interested in. Start cold calling; you’ll get shut down, A LOT, but it’s worth it. The people who sit and talk to you always have the potential to give you new contacts they’ll recommend you speak to.

God knows I’ve made mistakes too. I’ve been that guy I’ve been talking about, thinking I deserve something to just fall onto my lap. Then I realized it’s not gonna happen, and I refused to sit by anymore and possibly have nothing to show for myself. After I realized all of this, I started to rethink how to get myself out there. I’m slowly moving forward, I’ll get there eventually, and who knows, maybe I could start my own business?

“Tick tock, on the clock/ But the party don’t stop no…” *

*I swear I’ll never use this song again in anything I write. Time is on your side; make the best of it.